To the Single Ladies

I believe that society has done a number on single women and left them feeling like something's wrong with them. There is very little out there in the self-help/personal development world to support single women with becoming comfortable in their own skin. Everything seems to be geared around dating and finding a relationship. Because of the strong negative messaging that exists in society around singledom, I believe that many single women are unhappy, even if they don't show it. I also believe that it doesn't have to be this way. Yes, there are unique challenges that come with being a single woman "of a certain age". However, there are also unique opportunities available to these women as well - if they're willing to see them, then seize them.

I feel that single women as a group have been undervalued and underestimated by society and oftentimes, by themselves. This is why I've recently decided to focus my coaching on supporting single women.

To celebrate this new direction in my coaching business, I've decided to re-post a blog article I wrote last year on this very topic. I wrote this in honour of all the single ladies out there.


Society makes us feel that being single is a bit like having a cold. A transient state of unpleasantness that will pass. Once you weather the storm, there will be brighter days ahead. But I ask, why must these days be dark?

It is entirely possible that you will find your life partner in the future. But that doesn't mean that the time before that is just filler while you wait for your "real" life to start. THIS is your life - if you don't love it or even like it, I ask (curiously, not judgingly), WHY? Are you waiting for the partner of your dreams or longing for the social life of your 20's when friends were unmarried, without kids and available for fun? It's time to stop feeling like you've missed the boat or that you've been dealt an unlucky hand and it's time to recognize this current moment in time for what it is...precious! You have a unique opportunity to examine your life and ask yourself what you really want and why. You have the freedom to create a life that excites you and that you love.

This isn't about being an "independent woman" who doesn't need a relationship nor is it about making yourself better and therefore more attractive to the partner of your dreams. It's about you getting to really know and love yourself and being fired up and excited for NOW. Ladies, it's time to shine!