I am so grateful to have a life that is rich in relationships with family and friends that bring me joy, support, connection and fun. That's why it's incredible for me to think that less than two years ago, I was completely dissatisfied with my social life.
It's not that I didn't have great family and friends then, but I didn't feel fulfilled or satisfied. I now realize that the missing element was my role in the relationships. I was completely passive and I was always waiting: waiting for someone to call me up to do something; waiting for someone to come up with a plan; or waiting for friends to be free. In addition, I was relying on a core group of a few people to fulfill my social needs and desires. I hadn't really expanded my network very much and I certainly wasn't putting effort into making new connections. I had my "people" and I was sticking with them. There were countless weekends that consisted of my couch, snacks and Netflix (I got real tight with Walter White). Don't get me wrong, that is still my idea of a pretty great weekend, but it's definitely not what I wanted to be doing all weekend, every weekend! I was totally stuck in a rut.